Anger is an immediate reaction to an obstacle. It is a strong negative emotion of displeasure, hostility or fury that might occur to anyone on any occasion. Anger generates other bad feelings such as fear, disgust, shame, irritability, outrage, hostility and even violence and the aggressive response it generates can harm you. Anger is a punishment to you for somebody's fault.
Anger changes the behavior pattern of the person as a result
of changes in his emotional status. it is accompanied by physiological and
biological changes. Actions resulting from anger often lead to undesirable
physiological and health consequences, because the neuro-transmitters/hormones
(eg. adrenaline) released during anger intensify impulsive action and obscure
rational thought processes. It may raise your heart rate, the blood pressure
and may result in hot reactions. If you hold on to anger so long it will give
you tense muscles, stress and unhappiness. Anger is a silent killer. According
to Mark Twain anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it
is stored than to anything on which it is poured.
Anger can lead to problems at home, at work and elsewhere. It
spoils the quality of your life wherever you are. Anger can destroy your
relationship with your spouse, colleagues and others. The degree of your anger,
the manifestation of it and the length of you staying in anger, need skillful
management to avoid further problems. We can be angry on the right grounds,
against the right persons, in the right manner at the right moment for the
right length of time. But remember not to cross those borderlines any time.
Dealing with anger is a difficult matter and requires a lot
of skills. Expressing, suppressing and calming are the three ways of dealing
with anger. The healthiest way is to express your feelings in an assertive -
and not aggressive - manner. Suppressing your anger and then converting or
re-directing it to other positive ways, is another way. This way of handling of
anger can cause hypertension, high blood pressure or depression. You can defuse
anger through diversion, distraction, humor or by talking about it, so as to
calm you down. The third way is to force you to calm down inside, by
controlling internal responses. You can be angry every day but learn not to
show it so as to minimize the problems it may create, by any strategic manner.
Culture does not allow one to show anger. If anger is not allowed to express,
it stays in disguise. Anger built up over years can break even marriages.
The best way to manage anger is to reduce the intensity of
your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal. You can ignore what has
happened or to choose to shrug it off. When someone does something which you
don't like, why do you react to it by resorting to anger? When you are caught
with anger, you should deal with it tactfully by pausing for a moment and
reflecting on the situation. Then you can skillfully respond to the person who
triggered your anger without attacking him. You cannot avoid or change the
people that enrage you. But the easier possibility is that you can control your
reactions. The real cause of your anger is inside you and not on others. Those
who get angry easily have low tolerance, physiologically or genetically. Easily
angered people come from disruptive and chaotic families
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Nothing else matters if Anger comes...
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