In order to get people to admire you, you need to be someone who is worthy of admiration. You can gain the admiration of those around you almost by following a recipe. The dish you will have prepared is yourself: a better developed, more admirable you.
What do you need in order to get people to admire you?
First, you need to have developed good character traits. Then you need to mix in some integrity and a good values system to which you adhere. Lastly, you need to add a good dash of social skills in order to communicate these to other people. All of these factors contribute toward getting people to admire you.
1. Be selfless
Selflessness allows you to make people feel loved and appreciated without you necessarily expecting anything in return. This can be as simple as being a good listener when people need someone to talk to. Giving up some of your time to help other people, in charity work or just to do something good for a family member or friend is an admirable thing to do.
2. Be tolerant
People will be more likely to admire you if you make them feel special. This involves being tolerant of other people's views and actions. Also, if you are tolerant of life's ups and downs and you still come up smiling, that is something that people will find admirable.
3. Be honest
No-one admires a fake, so you need to be honest in order to gain other people's admiration. That means that you must genuinely care about people and demonstrate that to them so that they believe it.
Behave genuinely with other people and let them know your real feelings. Even if you have something potentially upsetting to tell people, tell them. Just be sensitive about how you do that.
4. Have integrity
Develop a set of core values by which to live your life and then stick to them, so that people know what they can expect from you. Don't do just about anything for money and don't do anything to the detriment of other people.
5. Be trustworthy
If you say you will do something, do it. Be the person that other people can rely upon when they need help or someone to talk to. Keep people's confidences and give good, honest and unbiased advice where it is asked for.
6. Be sensitive and thoughtful
Don't trample on other people's feelings or make them feel stupid for thinking or feeling in a particular way. So, think about how what you do or say will affect other people.
7. Be optimistic
There is already so much negativity in the world. People who are negative appear to be fearful and bitter. That is not admirable. Do, demonstrate that you see the good in anything and people will admire you and follow your example. They will want to be like you.
8. Develop your self confidence
In order to inspire admiration, you have to look like someone who sticks to their principles and knows what they want out of life. All this takes self confidence, to roll with the punches when life knocks you and to stick with your principles even if other people disagree with you or even criticise you for your views.
Remember, no-one is admired by everyone and you will always run the risk of meeting up with people who will try to damage your self confidence and say that you are living your life the wrong way.
If you have strong self confidence and your behaviour lives up to the above criteria, you should have some reason to believe that you have developed a good strategy for how to get people to admire you.
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